"We're Not Crazy... Ya'll Just Don't Understand"

Episode 8 is here, and we’re keeping it all the way real We’re Not Crazy… Y’all Just Don’t Understand! 

This week, Amanda is joined by her best friend Haven for a funny, honest, and relatable conversation about the ups, downs, and emotional rollercoaster that can come with being a woman. From mood swings and hormones to cravings, irritation, and trying to explain yourself when nobody gets it we’re talking about it all.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, blamed your hormones, or just needed somebody to say “girl, same,” this episode is definitely for you.

Get ready to laugh, nod your head, and feel seen. Because being a woman ain’t for the weak. 

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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:08

Hey y'all, and welcome back to Is It Really That Serious. Today we have a very special guest. One of my other best friends is on today, y'all. Hey, man, say hey to them. Hey, hey. Y'all, today's topic is gonna be we are not crazy. Y'all just don't understand. Because we not. You might be. Just a little bit, okay? But according to my mama, I might be crazy enough for a social security check. Yep, I agree with her. Uh, I make to different. I don't think that I need that. Of course you wouldn't. But it's yeah, I don't think so. You a work in progress. It's okay. We are. I don't I don't think so. Like, I do know that I'm crazy, but not crazy enough to get that. And nothing wrong with people that get it. I have nothing against that. Just to let y'all know, let's put that out there. Disclaimer, I I do not have anything against anybody who gets social security checks. Right. But you, oh that does that those checks do run through my family though. Not but just not for me though. Your mama missed that opportunity. She said that all the time, but I don't I don't think so. You wouldn't. It's okay. Yeah, you see how you friends do you? That's fine though. Okay, so let's clear something up right now. We are not crazy. Y'all just don't understand us. Okay, because why her mood changed every five minutes, and now we the problem. No, seriously, because one minute I'm happy, the next minute I'm crying, the next minute I'm mad, and I don't even be having a reason why. I'm trying to work on it. Yeah, every headache. Um listen, my son even irritates me, and that's rare. Yeah, for you, for sure. It is definitely okay. So let's talk about these mood swings we got because what is going on? No, for real. You can't control it. Crying all over the place. I don't really cry. Well, I'm sorry, I feel like my crying comes from anger though. So once I like something I can't control, if it's something that's bothering me, that's irritating me so much. Off my period, though. I'm not really a crybaby on my period, but I'm heavily irritated. I feel like I cry on my period. I'm very like my hormones is all over the place. It's actually unfortunate that that's my life. But you very much give off um stakler. I don't think so. Yeah, but you can respire in a text message and not instantly know. Oh, this bitch must be on her cycle. Okay. Yeah. That's actually sad. Yeah. We have said that before. It's unfortunate. Yeah. It is for you. How am I need to see somebody? Might. Maybe I should tell my doctor. One time when I told her, she started laughing at me, though. Because I was like, oh, my hormones like all over the place. For black women, especially, or whatever. We don't get taken serious about something. I don't think so. And she's actually not my color. Not to make this a race thing, because I don't want to go into that. But she did. She started laughing. She was just like, Yeah. I'm not surprised. But you do need to be medicated. No, she needs something. I need something expeditiously. Okay. Irritated out of nowhere. I'd be heavily irritated. Heavily irritated. Put that on the top of the list for me. Heavily. Irritated a million. Stupid shit made me want to legit rip people's head off. Stuff you know for a fact if you wasn't on your cycle wouldn't even irritate you as much. Wouldn't give a fuck at all. But let me tell you something. I have a short fuse, honey. Because I am any little thing except paper on the fucking floor. Why the fuck is it saying on the floor? Yes. No, no, no. Ain't no sign on that for me. No, I'm I was yelling out of nowhere. No, for real. Because why? Why is this place a mess? When it's just a piece of paper on the floor. Jace be no too. He just be like, oh, I'm just going out of the way. Oh, I feel bad with Jace. He be no. You can do that to Jace though. I honestly can't even see you doing that to Jace. I can see you turning it off. No, I'm Jace. I don't do it to Jace, but he, like, in the environment, if you hear me yelling, be like, uh, yeah, he definitely can. Yeah. Louis is just the one that has it. You probably staying clear off of how he sees you do other things. Yeah, he's like, uh, I'm gonna go in the wrong. Yeah, I can't see you doing Jace like. Or he'll come there and be like, What? What? What happened? He'd be trying to repeat it. I'm just like, Jace cue leave me alone. He'll be like, why? I'm like, Jace. And he'll just be like, okay, I'm about to go to Rome. He's so sweet. He is. He's just he's the best. Yeah. I'm not deserving of that little fella. Being overwhelmed, I would have to say, falls in that category for me as well. Definitely. Because, well, that's in and out of a period, honey. I'm overwhelmed. No, I feel I definitely feel that heavily, especially when it pertains to work or whatever. I definitely feel that heavily. It's just like, yeah, well, I already got this to do. And then on top of trying to function, on top of you being in pain, it's kind of just kind of like, can I have this week? Chronicles of a woman. Please can I have this week? Yeah. It's only seven years. What's wrong with that? It's not why's that mandatory? No, for real. Trump? You can have exactly other country. Can we please say to me? Can you help us? But then if we do do that and we ask for weak pay while we're on our menstrual, how that's gonna look. They would have need to have majority men in the office now. Because could you imagine having a whole bunch of women and they all on different it's just to us. But how you gonna know? Like what's your proof? That I'm on my cycle? Yep. What you gonna do? Calculate my my days for me? So you're saying people, if they gave it to us, we could take advantage of it. Come on now. They're gonna be like, how many periods you got in the one? Because you was on just on a week ago. Oh, you know, it's a rare content, you know. I go to the doctor's. Are you judging me? Because this is discrimination. Now I got something. So you tell me how long my period is?

unknown 5:15

Right.

SPEAKER_00 5:16

That's true. So you're in my vagina. You in my vagina. Some people have it worse where they actually are in dire pain. That and then they bleed for uh quite a while or whatever. I know when I was younger, since I've been in my 30s, it actually been heavier since I've been the older I get, the heavier it get. Because at first, when I had my period, it was faithfully three days and it wasn't that bad or whatever. But now, them first two days or whatever is murder. Yeah, I feel like when I was, especially with my anemic stuff, they was asking me, like, oh, do you bleed heavy? That's probably why you're anemic. And I'm like, no, but my bleeding heavy might have become a norm where I don't think it's heavy, if that makes sense. But I'm like, I also feel like two or whatever. How do you how do you gauge it? Because I only have one vagina. It's not like I could compare it to something. Then it's not like I have a friend who's on her lane cycle too, and then we're preparing, we're preparing each other's cycles. Like, yeah, like this is like and that's another thing too. They ask you how many pads are you going going through? Every time I go to the fucking bathroom. What do you mean? I'm going through a pad. But even I'm gonna change it. It's not that I'm going through it, I'ma change it. Yeah, yeah. I feel like the question should be how how does your how does your pad look when you're changing it? Is it well? I feel like you I feel like it's different because that's a tricky question. Because if you're bleeding heavy, you're probably changing it more than you go to the bathroom. True. So that's totally different. Say that you don't get the feeling, especially if you're up and about and you're doing something or whatever, that you you can leave the house or whatever, and you change your pad, you prepare and then leave the house, and then you make a quick little stop and you come back from the store. I was only gone for about 10 to 20 minutes or whatever, come back. I'm gonna check that pad or whatever, because I've been moving around or whatever. And if I'm going to the bathroom, I'm going to change that pad. That's true. So it's just like I even gotta do anybody that's not doing that wrong. Yeah, but but I do feel like that that's why I said going to the bathroom changing it every time you go to the bathroom, of course. But on your heavy days, you're probably going in between that. So that's true. And you know you're conscious that you're heavy. Because people have heavy days. So you're conscious that you're heavy. So sometimes you might be going to the bathroom and now you're there now, right? You want to check, but now you're there, and I'm changing. I'm changing. Yeah, I feel like it's kind of it's just so much information that you can't really because I have been told, I have been having like um, I have had like clocks where I thought they shouldn't be no bigger than like a quarter or whatever. But I have had clocks that was bigger than a club quarter and was told that that was perfectly normal. No, that's not what I was told. Like, and so it's just like, well, what am I supposed to do? I think that's a thing too for some women. Because I've been told that by somebody else that they I know this is TMI for some people, but I mean, yeah, real TMI real fast. These are chronicles of a woman. It's just it's very overwhelming. It's too much. It's so much information. It then happens that I don't have the TOS. Like that's another thing. Like, it's just too much that comes with it. Like now, I I recently got diagnosed with fibroids, so they came up with a reason why. Okay, you have your bleeding problem. Um, which I would have never known I even had fibroids had I never even went and got scammed for it. So um, yeah, it's a lot that women go through. It's either the fibroids and fibroids make you bleed on a regular. You know what's crazy is I feel like you only find out that stuff when a complication comes up. But I have my yearly peps mirror every year. And why did it don't come up? I feel like nothing. That should be original. That should be a part of the exam though. When you go to like have pep smears and stuff, I know they check for like cervical cancer, which is a big deal. Yeah. But why are we not checking for fibers? Like, okay, let's run a test for that or let's do an ultrasound for that. I feel like that should be like a part of the little exam when you do it. I feel like it's just a generic type of exam or whatever, you know, I'm gonna swab you or whatever, and we go from there and then you're gonna bite your way until a problem pop up. But why, if I'm coming here every year to make sure that everything is good down there or whatever, why all that's not included? That's why I say I feel like that should be included. It shouldn't be, oh hey, I'm bleeding out Oreo, I don't know why. And then now I'm about to run a test on you. Like literally. Yeah, I think that's a bit much. I ain't gonna lie. Yeah, I'm mad though, because every I feel like that might play a part in me being all over the place. Who wants to bleed repeatedly? No, for real. It it's that when you fetch your mood. I'm already mad every five minutes, so it's like And then especially you, you be big head. You ain't going out, you're not gonna drink when you go out. You don't have to, but let me tell you why a huge reason why I don't like going out on my period or drinking on my period. Well, I don't like drinking on my period because I know I want to have a good time with my friends. So I just the the hassle of being like, okay, I'm on my cycle, I need to stop and go here. And I feel like you you have to urinate a lot when you drink it, at least in our case. You do, definitely. So I don't, and if I'm out in public, I don't like using public bathrooms. Agreed. So I prefer to stay home while I'm on my cycle because I'm not using, unless I don't have a choice, and it's like, okay, girl, you gotta pee, you ain't got no choice. Uh public bathroom is my last resort. And when I tell you that's my last resort resort, that's I'm not using a public. I'm sorry, I can't. I'm sorry, I can't. So I'd rather stay home. Don't ask me to go nowhere. I will go, I ain't gonna say I ain't, but yeah, you would go. You'd be you would be a team player. Yeah, you a little buzz clear, but you would be a team player for sure. Cause some of these bathrooms, these people need to go to jail. Yeah, for short letters. Jail. Jail. For sure. Yes. Okay, so let's be honest. What has been your most dramatic moment on your cycle? Dramatic moment? Yeah. It's probably not an ashen, it's just probably the timing part. Traveling on your period some bullshit. Yeah. I I couldn't imagine being traveling somewhere or being somewhere having fun, and then boom, here she comes. But you know what? Now that we have the tracker and stuff like that, because mine's usually pretty much on point. It's either a day off or a day late. You know, a day early or a day late. But I'm just gonna track my tracker and I'm not traveling around that time. But could you imagine? I have had. See, no. I went to Jamaica on my period. Sure did. No. Well, if you already had a plan, and well, that's well, I don't know. I mean, that's what it was for me or whatever. I'm not gonna cancel my trip just because I I had my little period or whatever. However, I would say that's probably the most dramatic thing I ever went through. Because traveling on your traveling, period, it's not easy, it's not fun. I don't like it. I wish I could skip it. I I do like traveling, I just don't like the act of traveling, if that makes sense. I don't like the airport. If I could be there, yeah. If I could delete that, damn perfectly. I would have to totally agree with you. Yeah, but the process it takes to get there, it's like save me that, okay? I don't save me the headache. Yeah, I don't want to sit there. Because I feel like when you're on a flight, you just let me go to bed. I wish I could sleep. Like I have a cover and everything, and I have my little airplane pillow or whatever, but I'm not going to sleep. Because it in my head, the person sitting next to me is gonna do some weird shit. I don't know them. That's true. Yeah. So, but okay, if you with somebody that you know and y'all sit next to each other 1000%, yeah. So you like if you when you was with your your friend, you you never went to sleep on a plane or her? I don't think I have. No. You know what? I don't know. I don't think I can. I'm not easily the fuck. You know, like some people would just be like, oh, I'm gonna sit down and pass out. I'm exhausted. I'm not one of those. Oh, you're not. Yeah, no. I am. You know, I'm oh you make me sit down, especially if I drank something, honey. I'm sorry. Well, you have hit in my house and went to sleep. Okay. You have literally butt your ass in here with a few. Because you know what? Liquor don't make me, oh my god, I already have a time. Nah, it's gonna make me goofy, but it's gonna hit me to a stage where it's like, uh, yep, it's about that time. About that time to go to bed. Yeah, I'm tired. Wait sure about it. Yeah, yep. Don't let me be at home. Yep. If if I if I know that it's right before my home, I'm disappointed. 1,000%. Yep. Yeah. Okay, so what triggers you the most? Oh my man. I was about to say Lewis, but then I was thinking about here, like, is that mean that? Well, it's the truth. He triggers me like nobody's business. And it's actually unfortunate that he gets the stray bullets every single, but he has gotten to the point where he's like, I'm about to ignore you. I'm about to, I'm literally about to stop talking to you because all you about to I feel like I I get it to an extent because I know me and he was talking and he was like, Don't ignore me. I feel like this. If I know that all you're gonna do is shots fire every single time. No girl, I'm not about to argue. No, no, don't ignore me. Don't ignore me. Because that's only gonna piss me off more. Because what the fuck are you ignoring me for? Because you don't want to deal with my attitude. I don't care. That's a lot. I don't care. Look, I'm about to say, calm down. I'm the one that needs to calm down. You need to calm around right now, actually. I feel like you calm down or whatever. Let me have my little moment. This ain't about you. I'm going through something. I'm going through something in real life first. Put me in a room, shut the door. Literally, I'm not kidding. You shut me in the room. See, I'm the type of thing who enjoy being the normal. Do not talk to me until I calm down. No. Please be messed with. I'll actually lock my own stuff in the room. I got I'm a sick joke. Yeah. Clearly. So I like to be messed with.

unknown 14:08

No.

SPEAKER_00 14:09

I like the little argument thing. Not on my psychic. Because this is where the moose swings come in or whatever. Because five minutes later, I'm I'm turning into a big baby. Can we kill them? Well, I that's bipolar. You might have DV in on my period. So we agree that every woman basically is bipolar. So we might as well should be diagnosed with that. For sure. It's not about us, it might be a woman out here who's not like that, but that's a lie if you run around here and you're a woman, whatever JJ, and you say you ain't got 50 personalities on your foot. I feel like three to seven days. That's a lie. But I feel like that's not bipolar. I feel like that's the hormones fucking with me. And I'm sorry I can't control it. Yeah, you bipolar. I still love you. You're mad that you want to hug them next minute? Absolutely. I want you to do exactly what I want you to do, but I'm not gonna tell you exactly what I want you to do. You just have to read my mind. No, you need to. And if you do anything outside of that, then you piss me the fuck off and get it together. It's your fault. You should know. I'm on my period. You know I'm on my period. So figure it the fuck out and don't piss me off and come cook with me. I feel like that might be that might be me 10% of the time. But majority of the time, I'm probably locking myself in a room and I don't want to be bothered with Jace or Louis. Now the first day, don't don't bother me. I agree with that. Cause I feel icky. It's the worst. I don't want I let me get a hold of you know how this week gonna go or whatever. So give me that time the first day. But the second day, don't don't ignore me. The second day, that's probably my actual, like, come on. The first and second day I'm I'm actually drained tired. But once it's not really on my cycle that I'm like that, it's the week before. I agree with that. Like I get my cramps and stuff. Well, no, I get like heavy. This is how I know I'm about to come on. It's like the day or two before I come on. I get really bad cramps or whatever. And it's just like oh fucking. Well, I'm glad I don't experience that. Yeah, but then I get my my cycle comes or whatever, and it's just like, okay, I'm here, bitch. And it's just like, all right. So you like to be basically comforted, not alone. 1000%. Cuddle me. I'm only it's only a small percentage. I'm I'd rather be left alone. I want other kisses. Again, like I said, this is not me during majority of the time, this is not me during my cycle. It's only the week before. Like, you know that it's coming because I have an attitude. Like, I'm it's only at nighttime though that I want to be cuddled during the day or whatever. I know. And it's recently been brought to my attention that I actually do change. Like I actually am might be a little, a little me. But I also don't know what's what I am doing wrong though. Like I'm I'm blind to it. What am I doing? That's me. Yeah, I'm blind to it. Because I feel like in my head, everything that I'm fussing at you about makes sense. So you should have done it's always gonna make sense. It always makes sense to me too. And then I have to sit there and marinate and be like, okay, girl, girl. I feel like maybe I could I didn't have to go as hard as I did. I'm sorry. But it's still still you did some stupid shit and it made me feel some type of way. Yeah. Like it's still there. You still did the stupid shit. I go in the refrigerator and the top would be off of one of maybe this is just me saying stuff. It probably never happened. But the water bottle probably don't have a cap on it. Oh no, that was like Louis's name is being yelled. And Louis always be like, Why I'm the first person you call? Like, why am I the first person you blame? That would irritate anybody though. I don't like open shit in the refrigerator. Open me, that was just me giving the exam. I'm talking about it. That could be a thing that somebody truly is always mad about, but I'm just saying something as small as that. No, I get it. It sits me into a rage. And I will yell. Everybody could be sleeping. It could be early in the morning. I'm the first person. Well, if they hear me screaming, how long they're like, here she goes. So you feel like you can't hold it in? No, you can't just like it. If I hold it in, it's gonna like it's gonna calm down. I always be having to say this. This is how my son be knowing. I'll be walking around like it's all right, Amanda, calm down. You can't see her, but if she's sitting there, is she working herself up? If she taps her forehead, I'll be having to sit around, be like, calm down, Amanda, it's not that serious, not that serious. That's when Jace be like, What? What happened? What's wrong? Like, Jace, leave me alone. Please leave me alone. Run. But yeah. Yeah. Have you what about have you ever said something and immediately regretted it? I can't say that I have. You know, me, I'm very careful with my words. If we in an argument or not, I'm very careful with my words. Then I I I won't actually say something that I feel like I have to take it back. That's not me. I don't care what's going on. No, I might hit below the belt. And it depends on the circumstance. Yeah. And I I've said something in a long, long, long time ago days that I probably shouldn't have said. I think I'm very like, oh, you can get I wouldn't care if you get hit by a bus or something like that. Oh wow. Yeah. Yeah, that's pretty crazy. Yeah, no, I'm not saying no shit like that. I don't get that dramatic. I'm very conscious of what I say and what I will and won't do or whatever. I'll tell you I have to leave me alone before I ask you to be able to do it. But I'll pray over myself quick though. I'll be like, no, yeah. Because that's a little no. I would have to pray over myself very often. I ain't never turned, I ain't never been, I don't I don't be on my period, be murder mad. No, me neither. Never. Ever, ever, ever. Now that's that's like extreme, baby. You might really need some help if it's that point. To that point. Yeah, I'm not. Locked away. I'm talking about, I'm talking about locked away, like you the family needs to be in the safe place. I just a little irritated. Yeah, just want things to go my way. I would say mine's is a little irritated, but it's never to that extent. I'm not I'm not trying to harm nobody now. Yeah, I just be like, just a couple choice words. That's it. That's it. You'll be right. I will say I'm very spoiled too. Yeah. That might play a huge part in why I act the way that I act. But blame was I will have to blame him. Yeah. I don't think that's a I think being spoiled is not a problem. Nothing wrong with that.

unknown 19:40

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:40

I love him and then I dislike him. You know you love him. I do, but I dislike it. In the month, it's certain times in the month that I it's just like Louis is probably best in ignore your ass. I agree with him. Smart man. Yep. He definitely treats me accordingly. And I I would I I I can't even blame the man. Yeah. It is what it is. Yeah. You can't blame him either. Until something else comes up and I'm talking to him. Sometimes he'd be like, girl, he'll look at me like, didn't you just girl? Yeah, I have a problem. No, I need help. I can't help it. It runs. It's on my dad's side of the family. Actually, no, I take that back. Not my dad's side, because they're very reserved. I get it from my mom's side of the family. My mom was like this. I can't help it. Did you see that meme where um Michael Jackson did it? He was like, I can't help it. It's on my family. He was like, I don't like it. But it's on my mom's side, not my dad. And anybody that's on my mom's side of the family, don't lie. Yeah. It is an angry streak on that side of the family only. Yeah. Because I think the world on my dad's. So are you like that outside of your periods, would you think? A little bit. I could be like that sometimes. Because I feel like I'm about to blame some shit on me being on my period. I'm gonna blame it on my personal. 1000%. Yeah. No, if it's sorry, you know I'm on my cycle. You know I was on my cycle. And you know I'm hard to deal with. Yeah, get over it. Now calm down. It's not that deep. Yeah. I don't like saying it is that deep. I will say sorry, but I don't like saying sorry. I will say it. I'm only saying sorry in a text message. Oh no, because I'm not sure. Because I don't have the guts to say it to your face. No, I will say sorry. No. But if I could blame that shit on my period, I'm not saying sorry, I'm on my period. No, I'm not. You should have You know I'm on my cycle. I sent a little message like you know I'm on my cycle. And he'll be like, Yeah, I know that's why I'm not talking, that's why I'm ignoring you. Right. I love you. I love you though. Just pick up that paper next time, okay? Right. Don't do stupid shit. Take the dog outside next time, okay? Do you have a problem with them putting down the toilet? Girl. Like putting the seat down on the toilet. Yes. No, I have an issue with them leaving a seat up. That's what I'm saying. I thought you meant down, like the cover of the toilet down. No, who the fuck does it? Oh, that's the way you said it. Well, sorry. But I meant the seat. Leaving the seat up. Okay. That was it. I don't like that. I don't like that at all. I have had a couple times. Where they act like they don't understand and they will not lift the seat up and it's pee on my toilet. And I'm gonna tell you why I get mad because I'm like, I'm the only female in the house. So the least y'all need to have is the comic courtesy to be like, okay, she has to sit here. Y'all don't. Well, y'all do it. Y'all have to do the number two, but be respectful of the woman that's in the house. That's not okay. So I do have those issues where I have to cuss them out because of that. Because it's not rapid sciences to know that you need to lift it up. And you cannot be too tired to take one second. It's not even a one second to lift the toilet up and use the bathroom. And if you tell me you're that tired that you don't want to do that, now that's gonna sit me over the edge. So yeah, if I'm on my period, that that would be murderous. Oh, don't let me have to hurry up and urgently pee. That's what I'm saying. That'd be murderous. Don't let me have to urgently pee. I might can't play. Oh. Yeah. Oh yeah. It might be your time. Somebody getting hurt. Yeah, it might be your time for sure. Oh yeah.

unknown 22:48

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 22:49

And I don't care. And don't. Okay, because I do feel like we go through a lot. It's unfortunate that we have to deal with that, but we definitely do. We do bleed. Um it's still expected to show up for work, grocery shop, clean, all that. And I think men don't understand it. I'm walking around bleeding, hurting. And then you want to be in my face? I think it should be a rule that the men and the children need to leave you alone. I don't want to be there. You need to be cared to for three to four three to five days. Period. Don't if answer buttons. We're not questioning it. Whatever I say goes. Whatever I need should already be noted. It should be a maybe we should have like a little bit there. Yes. No. Chocolate on a regular basis. You need to bring me a chocolate. You need to bring me a chocolate cupcake. It's not like you was about to say that maybe we should put a plan out for them or whatever. No. I feel like if you've been around long enough or whatever, you already know what I want. Bring it. It's like having kids. They act like they don't get it. And men act like that. They don't get it. No. It doesn't matter who you say to them a million times, they don't get it. So maybe I do y'all need to know what my ex is this week. My likes and not. They know. You can't tell me they don't know. They do not. I feel like men purposely piss women off. I do. I feel like they live to do that. And that's just my opinion. I could be wrong. No, I feel like mine is get a kick out of a piss me off. There's times where I know that he's purposely rage baiting me. And I rage bait his ass back. You can't, especially me. I feel like nobody can out nonchalant me. You could sit there, you could try to piss me back. I do feel like you're a queen of nonchalant for sure. And I promise you it's gonna end with you being mad. I have mastered it. But I could in real life, I really could be mad or whatever, but I really peep what you're trying to do or whatever. You won't get a reaction out of me. Yeah, nope. You definitely give me that. You're not gonna lie. You definitely do. You get a reaction of me. I'm sorry I can't hold it. Yep. I can't wait. No, you really need that. Like my period is the only time that you actually gonna get a real reaction out of me because now I can't control that. Now I have to say something. And that pisses me off too, especially if I start to stutter. Oh, you mad. Nah, you didn't driving me up. You didn't make her mad now that she's stuttering and she can't get her words and she can't articulate herself. Just be mad. You didn't open up a whole can of worms. Now she's mad. Now I'm at murder. Yeah. Just be quiet. I don't like you talking too much. Just hush. I still want you to sit there so I can stare at you. No, no, girl. That shit would irritate the hell out of me. No, I go crazy. Leave me in the room. And like I said, if you bring the things to my room while I'm in the room, just relaxing or coming to the grips that I am on my period for the next however many days, bring me what I need, and you we won't have no problem. Bring me what I need. Or you could probably leave for the last next five, three to five days. No, you better not be able to do that. And then cheat on me periodically. No. And then actually, this like I said to y'all before, I'm I need to stop saying it's on my period because it's not on my periods the week before. I feel like on my period, I'm not as bad as the week before. Because you already I don't know. I don't know. The race you are. Yeah, I feel like you are different on your period too. Yeah. I can't. I don't feel like I'm as bad on my well, I will say I am bad, but I'm not as bad the week before. I definitely feel like that. And I feel like when we be talking, I'll say like on my period about to come. Because Neil, like that. I feel like we all got a problem. We just do. Yeah. It's a hormones. It's not, I feel like it's not a problem. We not the problem. We literally cannot control it. Uh uh, yeah. It's embedded in us. Some like I said, it's unfortunate, but yeah. Chemical thing, reaction going on. We can't contain it. If we had to do a cycle check rating one through ten, what would you rate your most wings? I feel like I'm not that bad. I put it at like a six. Like I can't. TN for me. For sure. For sure. But I feel like I'm not sure. How many if it was on her? I feel like I'm a little annoying or whatever, but it's still manageable. Coming from you. We have to ask somebody else they opinion. If you did not, if I did not state that I was on my period to you, would you be able to tell? No. Actually, you're right. You on the other hand. That's true. I would flat out ask you, are you on your period, right? Like, girl, you tripping. No, for real. I'm like. Because you can you can tell the truth. You are very obvious. It's just like, oh hell no. I don't like that I'm like that, actually. Yeah, you moody as fuck. I don't mean to be. Yeah. Cravings. Chocolate. I like one out of 10 cravings. It's on a 50. Is it on a million? I'm about to start naming winner. No, that's cravings be on 10,000 for sure. Me too. Oh my gosh. And I have to have it, okay? And it's a real thing that women need chocolate in a period because I crave it the most. It is when I'm on my cycle. Yeah. Yeah. It's weird. It's crazy. Chocolate. I need a cupcake. I need something. And once I get it, I'm like, ew, I didn't even really need it that bad. But you crave. And it'd be like, like, I have to have this, like, it'd be like, oh, where the fuck did that come from? Kind of chocolate. Like, do you mix shit? Like, I have like chocolate, like, I want chocolate and plain laid chips. Tell me, well, you wouldn't know. I was about to say the symptoms of being pregnant and on your period is very, very similar. Very similar. However, I mean, obviously, I have friends and sisters who have been pregnant or whatever. I would say that I feel like it is like a little pregnancy cravings because I will crave things together. Like I will, like last time I would have a moment ago, I literally wanted um pecan um ice cream and lay's chips. That's what they're doing. And if anybody said it, that's a bad combo there line. That's just mama used to eat that. And they used to be that's good. Pecan is is used to be one of my top favorite ice creams. But I be like pecan and layers is something my mama used to eat. Yeah. Or it be like hot Cheetos and like um sour cream. Oh my god, popcorn. I mean, sour cream and hot Cheetos are y'all might say eel. Beetle good. Have you ever tried hot Cheetos with mustard? See, you went too far. I wouldn't eat it on a regular basis, but I've tried it and it's really light bustard. Hot Cheetos and mustard, sour cream and hot Cheetos and Nacho cheese. I haven't had nacho cheese. Girl, you're missing out. Oh my god, could you imagine hot Cheetos, a scoop of sour cream on top of it with not hot Cheetos? I mean, nacho cheese with sour cream on top of it with hot Cheetos. Ooh, we girl. Add some little nacho meat. Taco meat? No. Mm-mm. It's a good ass a nachos. How you gonna scoop?

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What you want?

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What hot cheet? You said Doritos. No, hot Cheetos. You said Doritos. I didn't mean to say that. I thought you said Nacho Cheese. You talking about nachos? I wasn't talking about my sauce. That's not what I my head went for Doritos. Cheese sauce. No, thank you. Yes. I don't like, I have never made cheese that I like. Hot Cheetos and cheese. No, the tort. What is it? Tortine? What is it called? No, I don't like it. That's my favorite. I feel like the best cheese sauce I have if I get it from Weenstop. You know who else got good cheese sauce? Taco Bill. They do. They do. I love that cheese. I don't actually get cheese sauce from nowhere but Taco Bill. I won't eat nobody else's cheese sauce. And it got a little spice too. Perfect. Okay, y'all. But on a real note, being a woman is a lot, y'all. Emotional weight, expectations, still showing up even when you don't feel like it. It's a lot. It is. What's crazy is you don't ever get the clock out. Especially if you're a mom. I don't know how you're. I feel like that parents would be in a mom. You gotta be a mom and a woman. Come on out. Like I I can only imagine. It's too much to handle. Juggle. I'm sorry, Frank. I don't think we get the credit that we deserve, especially as especially as moms. We don't get the credit that we deserve. Because I barely can make it and I don't have no kids. Cook. I don't want to. That never ends. I don't want to cook, clean. Nope. You always gotta make sure they're okay. I will say when I'm on my period, I actually do like to clean. I I will say that's that's part of the city. I'm gonna rearrange. No, I just like to be lazy. Yeah, I'm gonna rearrange. But that's kind of me all the time. Yeah. I like to rearrange. Yeah. That's just your personality. That's a part of your personality, actually. But when I'm on my period, I feel like I do it more. Like I have to actually clean something thoroughly, like spring clean. Like I can't just do it normal clean. So you just like to keep yourself busy, basically. I can't say that I like to because I can't be lazy too while I'm on the period. It's particularly cleaning and rearranging. That's a thing you like to do. It is a thing that I do like to do. It is. Is it heightened on your cycle? 1000%. Yeah. Nope. Just leave me the hell alone, okay? Just leave me be. We don't get the clock out. And it's on top of that, I have to be a mom. I have to show up for him. I don't get to have a break. There is no breaks. And he don't understand what you're going through. He don't, and it's okay. Yeah, especially your son. He's the sweetest. He really don't know. He don't. Yeah. But it's not your. You give him a little pass. Just a tiny bit. Just a tiny bit. But we have to understand ourselves. Learn in our body, giving yourself grace and not being too hard on yourself. I think I'm hard on myself. Do you take the time out for yourself when you're on your period? Like maybe I never take the time out for myself. I feel I'm deserving of certain things. I'm not gonna lie to you. Like, say if you like even now when we went when I was talking about going out of town, I'm gonna talk myself out of it. I don't feel I'm deserving of a lot of things. You start to contemplate a lot of things. It's like, okay, do I want to work smarter and not harder? But it's not even about that. It's just about like, girl, you can take a minute to yourself. That's what I told you. You've been working really hard. It's okay to take a little breathing. And what did I say? That's how you burn yourself out. I would have to agree. Because when is the last time you've been on a trip? Um and don't say that first. No, no, no, no, no. Yeah, I was just about to say, don't say that because you had your kids with you. Yeah, that wasn't that. You're right. Yep. So it was probably like maybe three, four years ago. Four years ago, maybe. That Florida trip? Mm-hmm. That's bad. Yeah, it is. I know it's well deserved, but it's just be so much on my plate. You know how you just think about so much, you just like, I got so much to do, and I'm not focused on that right now. No, I I'm 1,000% get that for sure. But I do feel like you do need to take those little moments. And that's why I was about to say, I feel like it's our fault for being on 10,000 when we're on our periods or whatever, because maybe we should change that narrative. Maybe we should take that time to actually prep ourselves while we're on our periods. That's true. I wouldn't mind go getting my feet wrapped while I'm on my period. I don't know. I just really don't be in the mood. I don't be in the mood either. But I mean, if I put myself out of the bed to go to work while I'm on my period, I could put myself out of the bed to go get my toes done. I don't know. I truly. I'm just I'm like the opposite of that. I'm not gonna lie. But that's the way I'm saying y'all change your mind. Maybe we put ourselves in that bad mood. No, I try to control it and I can't. I told you it's on my mom's side of the family. Okay. I played my mom. Yeah. I wonder if she could get back pay. Oh, y'all. She wants to know if I can get back pay for Social Security. And it hit me soon. She said it like, what the fuck? Back pay? Back pay. Let's call my mama on the line. Like if she could prove. I'm about to call my mama, y'all, so y'all can hear her and her response to that. Let's see what she's saying, y'all. Just so we can have a little funny segment. Let's see if she answers y'all. I hope she picks up this one. Call her on the line. Yes, yes. Let's see. Hilarious. All right, thank you back. Yeah. Come on. What? Haven't said she thinks you might get back pay for me. What you think?

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Back pay for you for what?

SPEAKER_00 34:23

Social Security.

SPEAKER_01 34:27

Social Secure.

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Like you think I you think I you think you can get back pay for me? Hell yeah, I'll get one for Nikki too. I'm gonna get rich on both of y'all and dad try. So you get those treacy. So you think that I got a you I got a problem enough to get a back pay? Huh? Oh, yep. Well I was trying to get y'all a little funny segment because she usually she can't be that busy, girl. That she's gonna sit here and try to tell me she's gonna call me back. Oh, that was a little snippet, y'all. I didn't that wasn't even expected to be on this episode. But you heard from my mama, she thinks I can get one. Tracy too. But for y'all out there that don't know me, don't think I literally need one because I don't. I'm not she, I don't literally need one. They just joking. Okay.

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They're just playing.

SPEAKER_00 35:16

They just playing. Scratch my head. You can't have friends like this that will say something like that. I feel like you need friends who don't tell you the truth. That I need a social security j now. That's a little far-fetched. Like social security joke. I mean, well, I will accept it because I need it. I think you could be clinically diagnosed with some shit or whatever, and they can be like, oh yeah, her ass is I don't want to claim things like that over my life, though. Well, it's not really claiming because I I got it, huh? What would you say my diagnosis would be? You go bipolar. Damn. You can't get social security for bipolar, can you? That's a good question. I think it depends. I wonder. Is that cause that's cause can it be considered a disability? I don't know. I think it I don't know. That's a good question. Whatever it is, you guys have to be able to do it. You know what? I'm gonna check now if it's what we I could see it more so of like a child, maybe. Well no. I don't know. Is it a is it a is it a disability? I think it's a mental. It's a mental disability. But is that can that go? Like, cause okay. I can't think of how to articulate what I'm trying to say. Like I don't know how to what's the wording I'm trying to say. Because you got like disability that's like handicappily, you can't work. But with a mental, like is mental health like a disability? Outside of like being like outside of being like schizophrenia, you know, stuff like that, multiple personality. I can see those being disabilities. We might gotta check back with each other with that one. But I don't know about bipolar, man. That's a good question. Pop a pill and move on with life. It's funny. I don't know that it don't offend nobody. No, we definitely don't say things to because that was we wasn't even saying it in a joking way. Yeah, no, I wasn't. But I'm not trying to joke about somebody. Yeah, yeah. Nah, we not, we not. So that's definitely we put a disclaimer on her. We definitely don't have no nothing against nobody that have bipolar or nothing like that. But that was just a curious question. I am curious. Do you get a check? Can you get the check? I'm sure you can. But let's look because I'm genuinely. Let me know. I'm gonna ask Chat GP. Text my fan mail and let me know. For sure. Yeah. Um, but back to uh the topic because she definitely just threw me off with that job. I for sure did. He was a little curious, and my mama threw me off too because she agreed with her. That's sexually sick and so I want your mama to actually be who your mama is. I know. That's why I'm like, did I catch her at a bad time? Because everybody that's listening, the majority of everybody that's probably gonna listen knows my mama. Yeah. She don't have a filter. Yeah. And she just says anything. Yeah, I got her. She had women relaxed. Yeah. Yeah. She's definitely out and about, and that's why I didn't get the reaction that I needed, but it's okay. Let's talk about being hard on ourselves though. Just in general. I was just about to say, in general, I feel like that's a thing for women for sure. I feel like we juggle. I feel like women juggle a lot. Like a lot, a lot. Especially if you got kids in a man, like you, everybody manager. I feel like the expectations for women is the bar is super high. I feel like you have to do everything that a man does. And I mean that as far as like you have to wake up, go to work every day. Then you have to come home. You have to make sure your house is in order. You have to make sure that your kids is good, homework, you gotta feed them, your man and your um kids. Make sure that the bills are paid. Even if it's coming out of your pocket or your man's pocket, you still gotta make sure the motherfuckers is paid. You gotta make sure you remind them. You have to force your your boyfriend, husband to go to the doctors. Yes. And that's a real thing, y'all. I'm not saying that it's men out here who don't do that, but that's a real thing about having to force your. I don't think that they think that's important enough. Not in the aspect of like um STDs or nothing like that, but of like actually checking on their health. Y'all have an issue with that. They do. Which is crazy. Because it's just like, why do I have to tell you? I will tell you this though. It did take me to a certain age to realize, like, you know what? Because I always had an OBGYN. I always got checked for that. That was always my yearly thing or whatever the case may be. I I it took me a while to get a PCP. Like, so after my childhood stage of like getting out of 18, your mom would take me and stuff. No, I probably was a little later down the line that I stopped having a PCP. But I eventually stopped having a PCP in my tw sometime in my 20s. And I all the way up until I don't know, probably what am I probably in my 30s, maybe third, no, probably late 20s, I end up getting a PCP. That is, I can't stretch enough how important it is. I think it's because I I I feel like us growing up, we in our 30s or whatever. I feel like where our moms is not really heavily stressed that, like, hey, you order now, whatever, make sure that you, you know, got a primary care physician and you go on and take care of your business. It's not heavily stressed. No, it's not. It's not. Because I don't think my mom my mom is kind of the type of person where she's not going to the doctor unless she has to. You're not about to make me go. Yeah. Um I think also, too, I will say for me, I noticed it or whatever, us working at the urgent care, how people treat the urgent care as their primary care physician. They are not going to be able to do that. They have, and I we've both worked into the urgent care, and that's definitely what y'all think. Uh, y'all ones who have the insurance card, but the doctor is on the insurance card, but y'all we see y'all on a regular basis at the clinics. Yeah. Y'all need an actual PCP. By you walking in. Yeah. You need it, you need an actual PCP. Yes. That's what we have them for. But you know, COVID made it bad for a lot of people though. Because it will start getting harder and harder to get into Z your PCP. I will say that too, or whatever, especially if you in the Bone system or whatever, as far as like epic goes or whatever, you can message your PCP from right there. And they will prescribe you whatever you the fuck you need off of symptoms that you telling them you got. No, my daughter, not like this. She likes come on in. It depends on what it depends on what it is. No, my PCP is not doing it. Yeah, it depends on what I no. I feel like there's never a time my PCP didn't take it. Like if you was like, oh, I'm lightheaded or whatever, and this is how I've been feeling for a few days, and baby, yeah, bring that ass in. But if you're saying something like, oh, I got a sore throat or whatever, and I can see white, white dots at the back of my throat or whatever, that's strapped. Nope, they're not doing that. My PCP not at least. She like, no, I need to see. Because my PCP, her mindset is a little different. No, my PCP is going a little deeper because she like, you can say that, but what if you have a STD in your mouth? Oh, well, yeah. No, we need to come, you need to come in. I need to see what that looks like. I can't take a patient's word from saying that. And I'm about to give you some medication. I don't know what that looks like. I don't talk about it. Anything my PCP thinks knows that needs something that needs to be seen, no. You need to come in. I need to see what I need to see what that is. Some shit though, if you tell me you got white spots in the back of your throat, y'all can go to the um urgent care for that shit. But anything outside of that or whatever, I'm feeling white-headed, been feeling light-headed for a couple of days, go to your primary. Yeah. Don't go, don't try to do that. No, I'm I think for me personally, I'm not going to urgent care unless my PCP saying she can't get me in for weeks. Other than that, I'm not I'm not going to urgent care. It depends on what unless it's something that's late at night and I, like maybe my son was sick and I can't get into his PCP. I'm never going. It's a rare case you're gonna catch me in the urgin care. It it depends on what it is, for me. If I if I got a sore throat and I knee mess or whatever, I go to I go to urgent gear. If I can't get them from my PCP. If I test my T Pla. I can't even talk. My PCP and they were like, um, are we not giving it to you or they took too long to respond back to me? I take my ass to the urgent care. Yeah, I'm that's why I said I'm gonna go with my PCP. You break your arm, you can't get me in, or my PCP not responding quick enough. I'm like, okay, let me just go up here. If it's something I feel like I can't wait on, I'm going. But it's a rare occasion you're gonna catch me in there. There's nothing wrong with the urgent care. Well, there's nothing wrong with it to me, though. Certain urgent care is. That we feel comfortable with them with Ashley. Like I will go to their, I will go there. Yeah. Just can you see me? Yeah, yeah. I will have to agree. But we have seen people mis um use urgent care a lot. I will have to agree with you on that. I will. People who work at the urgent care shouldn't know you by name, by by your face. You walk through the door and I'll be like, oh, here come dah dah da. And I say your foot. No, by name. Oh, yeah. Yeah, that's crazy. Or you pop up on the screen or whatever, and they're about to come in. Oh no, we should not know you. Yeah. And some of the stuff or whatever used to live literally for what you're coming in for, like the man, man, there is nothing wrong with you coming in there and saying that you want the S C D test or whatever. We're not thinking nothing in We don't care. Literally, you don't have to sit there and say, Can you write it down on the paper or you want to wait until you go to the back or whatever? I get that because it's people in the lobby, so they might not want to say that out loud. I mean, saying it out loud, okay. Cool. I I feel like a lot of the patients, I don't think it's about saying what it is because we're gonna have to take the paper from them. I think it's about saying it out loud. How about no matter what it is or whatever, when they come and bring your paper, we can see it. We eventually gonna know what you come and better for, anyways. We can see it. So it's um but basically what I'm saying is if you're coming in for STD testing or whatever, I promise you there's no thoughts that go through my are my some of us, because it is some people who are nosy. I feel like that. I feel like those are people that may know you. No, I think people some people are weird and nosy and like to do extra. Like what? Like wanting to know people's business. And I unfortunately unfortunately it might be a batch of people that might be in a medical field like that. Honestly, the minute I've been in a medical field for over 10 years, never have been that type of person. Yeah, me either. I feel like once you move from in front of me, I'm gonna forget who you are. I swear I am. Yeah. Unless you're just a regular. It's too many people coming in here. We don't once you get to the back, you are out of our hands at that point. Yep. I took care of you. You're good to go. Bye. Bye. Okay, y'all. Let's be honest. How many of y'all feel like your mood is always all over the place on your cycle? For sure. Change everything. At the end of the day, though, we are not crazy. No, we're not. And we just women trying to figure it out, trying to manage it all. Yeah. That's it. That's all y'all. But until next time, make sure you guys like, share, and follow to stay up to date on all the latest with is it really that serious? I do have some good stuff coming soon. I'll be announcing. I'll let you guys know at a later time. But until next time, y'all, peace.